CYCLES OF MARRIAGE YOU NEED TO KNOW: – CYCLE TWO
CYCLE TWO: THE CONTENTIOUS / COMPETITION CYCLE
By Pastor Akindele Victor O.
You are welcome to the second cycle of marriage. The first cycle is HONEY MOON CYCLE which may last as short as a day or few hours to one week, one month or years.
Couples determined this, not time. When you get married, prepare for these cycles because you must definitely go through it in life just as a child will never missed his / her cycles of growth. It is a sign of growth unto maturity in your marriage, so don’t give up on it.
At some stage of life, it will be as if you are no longer in love with each other and you will feel like calling the marriage off. No, it is just a school you must go through to have experience that will bring you closer and better. There is no maturity in life without experience.
The second cycle is the CONTENTIOUS / COMPETITION cycle.
This is a delicate cycle, it is now that couples will begin to fight for superiority in the home. The man expect the woman to respect him, the woman is also looking for respect and wish her voice count in the home.
Naturally, women will never agree they are in contention with their husband but by actions they do. These are what you notice at this cycle:
1). The man begins to resist some excesses
of the wife
2). The woman begins to point out areas
where the man no longer make her happy.
3). Some couples who are uncultured and
who also lack understanding will begin to
use derogative and railing words on each
others to drag home his / her views.
4). It is the cycle couples begin to experience
too much of hot arguments.
5). It is at this cycle couples reflect their real
self and manifest their mentality and
experience from their family background.
6). The competition / contentious cycle is a
delicate cycle because it may end the
marriage if “a” partner is not ready to be a
fool and play along (either the husband or
WHAT COUPLES NEED AT THIS CYCLE
1). Be patient, with time it will fissile out.
2). Have advance forgiveness for your spouse
3). Never listen to your inner voice that will
suggest cruel things to you, it is just a
cycle you must cross.
4). Learn to accommodate and tolerate one
4). Just know that is is a fight of differences in
backgrounds so learn to forgive as many
times as possible until you stabilise in the
LOVE IS MORE THAN HUGS AND KISSES, LOVE IS ABOUT COMMITMENT, TRUSTING EACH OTHERS AND HAVING FAITH IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
NB: this cycle can come at any time in your marriage. It may happen between first to ten years of your marriage and probably above for those who have wonderful and romantic HONEY MOON CYCLE.
THIS IS WHY YOU SEE MARRIAGE OF TEN, TWENTY YEARS BREAKING UP.
YOUR MARRIAGE WILL ENJOY SWEETNESS TO THE LAST IN JESUS NAME. Amen.
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( by Akindele Victor. O.
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