God spoke to Abraham to leave the father and the mother to where He (God) will show to him. Abraham left with his wife Sarah, the nephew (Lot) and maid servants. This is what happened; I will tell you the consequences of his action. The extra two people Abraham brought out of his father’s house became a torn in his flesh and a snare to him. Lot troubled Abraham greatly and the maid became a snare to him and Sarah which today is the trouble of the whole world.
I pity newlywed couples who go about looking for a relation or maid to stay with them in the name of someone to assist in the home.
If Abraham had observed the principle of man and his wife, all these distractions and down fall would not have been recorded.
Eventually, Lot settled in his own family, Hagai equally settled in her own family, Abraham was still left alone with his wife. No matter what you think you are, you will not know the benefit of a wife and husband until you both lived in a good old age, then you look left and right, it is just you and your husband with your children scattered all over the places to begin the fulfillment of the command of one man and his wife.
God instituted marriages so that we can raise Godly seed that will continue our linage after us. Malachi 2:10-16. “Have we not all one father? hath not one God created us? why do we deal treacherously every man against his brother, by profaning the covenant of our fathers? Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the LORD which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange god. The LORD will cut off the man that doeth this, the master and the scholar, out of the tabernacles of Jacob, and him that offereth an offering unto the LORD of hosts. And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously”.
TWO KINDS OF HONEY MOON
There are two kinds of honey moon in the life of every couple. The first is when you just wedded, for more than nine months or there about before baby starts coming, the man and the woman is alone. That is the first period of honey moon.
The second form of honey moon is when your children have grown, trained and become fathers and mothers. At this stage, the relationship you had with them within twenty to forty years together under one roof is severed; you come back alone with you and your wife. By then all your children must have gone out.
Yes they may be close, but it will just be on a visit or you visit them. Remember you were a boy in the past, but now a husband and father. Equally you were a girl before, now you are a wife and a mother. Soonest you will become a grandfather and grandmother. Prepare for your old age, ask God for long life together, build your home together as husband and wife.
It is important for you to know that how you live together today as husband and wife will dictate how you enjoy old age together. If you live in strife, contention, competition, anger, disunity without affection and passion, men! you will regret your old age together. When your strength will fail you, no one will be there for you.
What you are sowing now is waiting for you as harvest tomorrow. Care for your spouse, train your children and help other family members but be careful of their influence on your relationship with your spouse because others will leave, it will remain you and your spouse..
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