FIRST LOVE AND MARRIAGE: A MUST READ MESSAGE TO THE YOUTHS – PART THREE
By: AKINDELE VICTOR
THERE IS STRENGHT IN FIRST LOVE. SO WAIT FOR YOUR TIME.
The first experience of any thing in life always lasts long.
Being so, your first love is supposed to be your husband/wife.
The strength, the loyalty, the affection and love of first love is meant to be exhibited in marriage and not outside it. It binds the two together and helps them weather any storm of life.
Do not make any boy or girl your first love through sex wherein you exchange your body and soul.
Rather let the man or woman who have taken you to the alter be one you will cement the relationship with.
He/she is the only authorized person to be your first love whom you will give your body and soul. This breeds trust and deep love in marriage.
THE GREATEST THING THAT WILL HAPPEN IN A RELATIONSHIP IS TO MARRY A FIRST LOVE. KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE. IT IS YOUR FIRST LOVE.
There is no boy or a girl that does not wish to marry whom he or she loves. The society we live has posed many challenges and raise standards so high that it becomes very difficult to get married.
He who has not paid your bride price and not financially and physically matured is not qualified to be your first love.
When you come to know God as you ought to, you will definitely regret your past and feel sorry for your self (Ezekiel 36:31).
SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE HAS UNTOLD CONSEQUENCES. YOU CAN AVOID IT.
Some married women are into adultery as a protest against their husbands sexual pervasion. Another category of women are into adultery because they got sexually wild during their spinsterhood and so find it difficult to be satisfied by their husband. Many are soul tied that it becomes impossible to let go their former partners, so, they continue the scene even while they are married.
For men, some are actually unfaithful to their wives because what they bargained for is not what they are seeing in marriage. When a womans honey is already dried outside marriage, which honey will be left to make the husband happy?
For this, some men now insist on knowing a girl, sexually, before making up their mind, this is usually an act of lack of confidence and trust on the girl.
Did you know that sex before marriage can affect a man/womans career. This may be in the form of unwanted pregnancy, STDS etc. Once it happens a burden is added on the familys budget which may affect the destiny of the girl.
Yes one may contact deadly diseases, or spiritually sexually transmitted disease (read more of this in chapter five) etc.
The most dangerous is the spirit of comparism.
Here the woman and the man compare their spouses sexual prowess with their former partner(s). This is one of the forces that deal deadly blows to a marriage.
This happens because the man or the woman has multiple sex drives hence his or her eyes will not be single. But, the Lord says “when your eye is single your whole body will be full of light” (Mathew 6 :22).
When you have only one partner in life, you will have no need of comparism because you never tried another person in your life. The benefit is that your mind and soul will be focused; your love and strength will be focused only on your husband or wife because he or she is your true first love.
Many have done this in time past. Give yourself to a single partner, then your eyes will be single in life. Give your self to multiple partners, then your eyes will be double. And their will be distractions, frustrations and hypertensive moments for you to contend with.
NO PARENT WISHES TO SEE HIS CHILD INVOLVED IN SEXUAL EXPERIENCE BEFORE MARRIGE BECAUSE OF THE UNTOLD CONSEQUENCES.
Every parent prays, fight, and protect their children from early exposure to sex. If sex with so called first lover is a must outside marriage, parents would have prepared a plat form to fulfill that. If there are many benefits in you as a young child experimenting with sex, your parents wouldnt have discouraged you from it.
Parents discourage their children and warn them against early exposure to sexual practice because they know that there is no benefit in it. And they feel ashamed to discuss their ugly sexual experiences of going into sex before their marriage with their children.
Are you an adult? Please tell people around you that sex outside marriage is destructive, distractive and destabilizes a focused mind which is capable of bringing you down to the dust.
Worst of all, it draws people into relationships they would not have anything to do with, on a good day. The youths of our day must shine their eyes because all that glitters is not gold.
REMEMBER: YOUR VIGINITY IS YOUR FIRST LOVE THAT MUST BE PROTECTED TILL YOU MARRY. TAKE HEED.
When you have given out your virginity before marriage, what would you have for your spouse? When you have experimented with sex on two or three partners, your spouse will become the fourth partner to soul-tie with.
Then what would you call him / her? Will he or she still be your first lover?. Are you married to a victim of a pre-marital sex? You need to forgive such one because love, genuine love, they say covers multitude of sins.
Let the covering of the sins of the past propel a new love to be founded on Christ, envelope your marriage so that it can be enjoyed. This is the only way to restore bliss of the marriage. What would you settle for as a young child?, a young girl or a young boy? Will you settle for an endured marriage or an enjoyed marriage?
What determines that is the sex attitude of that girl or that boy now. If you have kept yourself pure and you patiently wait for someone who also kept his/her self pure, then you will have an enjoyable home.
If a girl keeps herself pure but married a man who was sexually perversed, the tendency is that they may have an endured marriage, and vice-versa.
Join the crusade for a new society of blissful homes by obeying Gods command about marriage and sex.
Extract from my book “SEX EXPOSED”. YOU CAN ORDER FOR YOUR COPY OF THE COMPLETE BOOK. Text or WhatsApp to: 08037730716
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