If you just wedded, I welcome you to a home of joy and fulfillment. I know you have expectations for this marriage. If you are hoping to be married, very soon, God will answer you. For you who is already there, how has it been, hope blissful? If it is not, don’t you worry God will handle it. Just follow me in this mission we shall succeed together.
What are your dreams, what inspired you to catch those dreams for this marriage. No matter the dream or what inspired you, this is my advice for you
BUILD YOUR HOME ON YOUR OWN FOUDATION NOT ON YOUR PARENTS STANDARD
Put your spouse where your parents started and not where they are right now. It is very possible for children to determine their friendship and choice in life based on the parent’s standard of life they live in their homes. Most children don’t bother to ask their parents, how did you start? Or what was your past like? The onus rests more on women in this circumstance.
This is one area that is fast wrecking homes today. The woman have imagined herself living in a big house with a big kitchen double her room; she has imagined giving her family members (husband inclusive) the most delicious food ever. She imagined changing clothes at least twice in a day and having sufficient materials at her disposal at all times. The wife wants the house stocked with food stuffs and provisions. Actually all these are good but you need to face reality now, all these may not always be in abundance.
In homes after marriage, the inadequate of these may cause serious setback as the woman start feeling frustrated and becoming unhappy. It takes a woman who understands that every family must have and lay their own foundation, to still adjust and not be indifferent to the husband, that it will not affect their relationship.
I can use myself as an example. Today I take my children to school and bring them back on every school day with my car. They buy what they want and eat, but I did not start my marriage with a car. In future, there is possibility that my children may start relating to their spouse (most especially the girls) the way their home is. But they may not know that there was xmass when my wife entered market to buy N400 meat to celebrate with and to entertain visitors. Today as I am writing this, I can buy chicken to eat at any time.
Let it be clear to you that in marriage, it is a privilege and a time to prove your worth, start your life and build your own future. Your parents have built their own whether successful or not. Learn to be contented where there are shortages, learn to manage, do not feel disappointed when there is shortage or lack, it is just for a moment. Do not destroy your future because of what you want now, your future is coming.
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Wait for the success story of your marriage; don’t judge your home with the success of your parents because they all started very rough too.
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