UNDERSTANDING LOVE AND SUBMISSION IN MARRIAGE

GENESIS 12:10-20

A wife is told to submit to her husband because of her reverence for Christ. (Eph. 5:22). Her submission signals her acceptance of God’s institutional order in the family and the church (please take note of that last statement critically). God has made the husband the head of a family, just as Jesus Christ is the head of the church (Eph. 5:23). She is to follow the example set by the church (Eph.5:24). The church’s submission to Christ is total and wives must imitate this as they submit to their husbands in everything (class is to discuss what it means in everything).

This divine arrangement does not imply that women are in any way inferior to men or men superior to women. But wives and husbands have been assigned roles in the home and in the church (1 Cor. 11:8-12) Paul explains the hierarchy: God is the head of Christ (though both are essentially equal), Christ is the head of the man, and the man is the head of the woman.

If wife is to model her behavior on the relationship between the church and Christ, then husband is to model his behavior on the way Christ loved the church and demonstrated his love by dying for it on the cross (Eph.5:25). Such divine love goes far beyond sexual love or even friendship love. It sacrifices itself for the one it loves.

The reason why Christ sacrifices himself for the church is so that she can become pure and holy without stain or wrinkle, or any other blemish and be fit to be his bride. So a man is to take care of his wife. While a husband can not be like Christ and save his wife from sin, he can love her sacrificially despite her imperfection (1 Peter 3:7) Just as Christ did to the church.

  1. FAMILY STRUCTURE

Col 3:18-23, Eph 6:1-9

GOD -JESUS – HUSBAND [man] – WOMAN [wife] – CHILDREN /HOUSEMAID

QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSION

  1. Is a wife not meant to express or exhibit love or affection towards her husband in marriage? Gen.3:16 b “…. and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee”

It is biblical for a woman to express her love towards her husband, as a woman, I encourage you not to feel shy to tell your husband I love you.

  1. Who takes a lead in the home? THE MAN. Gen 3:16b, 1cor 11:3 Eph 5:22-23

:……and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”

“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God”.

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord”.

“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.”

  1. Does a Husband accountable to anybody? YES, TO GOD. 1. Cor. 11:3, Eph.6:9

“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. “

“And, ye masters, do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your Master also is in heaven; neither is there respect of persons with him.”

My advice to every man is to handle their home with the fear of God because you will give account to God as the head of the family.

  1. What is the relevance of the following scriptures to a wife in marriage? Eph. 5:33b, 5:24, Eph. 5:22, Col.3:18 (What does it mean to reverence or respect?)

“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband”.

“Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing”.

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.”

If a woman could abide by this order from God, the husband is bound to love her till the end. Wife is to respect the husband contrary to the view of some women today who are not ready to stay under a man because they want to be the head.

Such a woman can never have a home, this is why we see some as single mothers today aside those who lost their husband.

To reference means to respect, to worship, to admire.

  1. Does a husband need to show respect to their wives at all? YES. Eph. 5:21, 1Pet 3:7

“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.”

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. “

I love the bible, God is never partial in His doings. We always say that respect is reciprocal; that a woman should submit to her husband does not mean she does not deserve some respect also. Women are also to be honoured and respected. If men understands this there will be no wife battering.

  1. What should be the reaction of a husband against his wife? Col.3:19

“Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. “

He is not to be harsh or bitter against her i.e. never hate her for her weaknesses or short comings) consider this scripture also: “Love covereth multitude of sin”

  1. Why should a husband love his wife? TO AVOID HINDERED PRAYER. 1 Pet. 3:7.

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Your prayer will be hindered because your wife is also an heir of the promise, so God will not be happy when you don’t relate well with your wife as a husband. Some termed their wives as a witchcraft that blocked their way. But the above scripture shows that they may be innocent while God himself is against the man, God refused to answer your prayer and blocked your ways because you failed to love and give honour to the wife he created with you as a joint heir. Stop blaming people, just have a change of attitude, positive towards your wife, you will be surprise with the results.

  1. What happened when a wife refused to respect or submit to the husband? Discuss. See also 1 Pet. 3:1-6 THERE WILL BE NO PEACE.

“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;”

“While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.”

“Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;”

“But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”

“For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: “

“Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. “

You can now agree with me that bible is complete, almost the opposite of what expect from women is what we see in marriages today. Little wonder, there is rancor in homes. In as much as God ordered the husband to love the wife, He equally ordered the wife to respect and take care of the home. Do not wait until your husband will begin to demand his respect from you, just obey God, do His will, you will see positive changes in your husband

Definition of key words.

  1. What does respect means?
  2. A feeling of admiration for somebody or something because of their good qualities or achievements
  3. Polite behavior towards or care for somebody or something that you think is important.
  4. What does it mean to submit? To accept the authority, control or greater strength of somebody or something.
  5. What is love? A strong feeling of deep affection for somebody or something especially a member of your family or a friend. A strong feeling of affection for somebody that you are sexually attracted to.
  6. Feeling: something that you feel through the mind or through the senses.
  7. Affection: a feeling of fondness or liking

 Assignment

  1. List five consequences of not expressing affection / love by a husband – assignment to the wife
  2. List five consequences of not submitting to a husband by a wife – assignment to the husband.

Note: To be discussed by both couple

   Read also: Hoe to sustain love and affection for each other as a couple- second post

  Do you really need peace in your home? – then follow this principle

 ~ ROMANCE: The Biblical View Point, Learn How To Apply It In Your Marriage.

~ Things that could quench fire of love / affection in marriage. How to avoid them

~ See your views about marriage that will surprise you. Please be sincere with the questions

How to sustain love and affection for each other as a couple- second post

How to sustain love and affection for each other as a couple- First post

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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