YOUR FRIENDS AND YOUR FUTURE: HOW TO SUCCEED AND NOT BE DISTRACTED
By Pastor Akindele Victor
Your friends could either help you to reach your goals in life or distract you from reaching your goals. To you as a youth, the issue of friends has been a sensitive aspect of your life. Yes it is normal to feel like associating, hooking up or going along with others, God the Creator made us social animals and we know we can’t succeed in isolation.
Many who are at the top today are supported and motivated by someone in the same society. World at large have no problems with that, where we are more concerned is the uprising of unrest, criminality and violence among teenagers and youths today. It seems more bad eggs are making waves and seriously influencing others to that same direction of ungodly and condemnable vises in the society. These ranges from smoking, drinking, drugs, examination malpractices, kidnapping, robbery, rapping just to mention but a few. What is the way out?
I am going to give you step by step teaching to follow as a youth reading this post or as a templates to parents to use for guiding your children to make the right friends that will help them succeed in life and not those that will distract them.
WHO IS A FRIEND
By my definition, your friend is that person who is close to you, have influence on your decisions and whom you get acquainted to either as a family member or non family members
WHERE CAN YOU MEET A FRIEND
1). In your family:
This could either be your cousin, your nephew, your brother, your sister, your father, your mother, or any from your relatives.
2). In an institution:
You can meet your friends in school at any level, either from nursery to tertiary institutions.
3). In any events or ceremony:
This may be at a wedding, birthday, seminar etc
4). In your place of worship;
You may meet your friends in your church, mosque etc where you worship.
5). In your work place:
You can make friends among your colleagues in your office
6). Your place of residence:
You can make friends among your neighbors, cotenants etc
7). Other places you can make friends includes market, saloon, sport arena, gym centres etc
ARE WE SUPPOSE TO MAKE FRIENDS AT ALL?
The response to this is yes, you can’t succeed in isolation. You must go to school, market, place of worship etc, all these can’t be done in isolation. In some organizations, you work as a team so you must interact with each others. Though these does not guaranteed that our connections in these places must lead to friendship, but in most cases, it does lead to that. What is important is what the bible says in Proverbs 27:17
“Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend”.
TWO KINDS OF FRIENDS
There are two kinds of friends I will talk about here, (you may read more in my other articles on how you can overcome peer pressures). You should be careful with number one and concentrates more with number two
Those who will divide, distract, destroy and limit you in life.
This is how you will know them:
- they introduced you to drugs, smoking and drinking
- they will introduce you to prostitutions or immoral living
- they abscond from school or work place
- they talk more about pleasure and party
- they don’t exhibit the fear of God at all
- as students, they hate reading so they involves in exam
- they take to robbery, drugs, kidnapping.
- they are always proud looking and talk more of fashion.
- they lack vision, they move without directions in life.
- they rebel against authority and they do not respect others.
HOW DO YOU TREAT THIS PERSON OR A GROUP?
Walk away simple…. See what the word of God says about this.
Proverbs 1:15 “My son, walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path”.
He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm. (Proverbs 13:20)
A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. (Proverbs 12:26)
Those who add and multiply you.
The second kind of friends are those who will add to your life, they help you succeed in your dreams or career. Their characters are just opposite of the first kind of friends mentioned above so you can stick to these friends. They teach you God’s word, they respect authority, very hard working with great vision and direction in life.
WHY YOU SHOULD CHOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY.
“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character ”_
1 Corinthians 15:33 (NIV).
1). Your company determines your character, and your character
determines your future.
2). You become whom you admire in life
3). The closest person to you determines your decisions in time
4). You ultimately become whom your friend is. If your friend is
wise and Godly that’s what you become. If your friend is not
wise and ungodly, you will become a fool and therefore
wayward in life.
For Counseling contact:
By Pastor Akindele Victor
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By spending quality time with her daughter, a Christian mom can protect her against peer pressure to mature too quickly and guide her toward true, life-enhancing friendships.
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Moms (and dads) will be delighted with the biblical grounding and godly guidance that will help them build deeper connections with their daughters and protect them in their friendships
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