FIRST LOVE AND MARRIAGE: A MUST READ MESSAGE TO THE YOUTHS – PART ONE
By: AKINDELE VICTOR
TO GIVE YOURESELF TO SEXUAL INTERCOURSE IS NEVER A CURE FOR SEXUAL FEELINGS.
People who are driven by sexual urge, imagine that if God does not want them to have it, the feelings wont come. they cease to know that the feeling of sexual intercourse is one of the sign of maturity, which alerts you that you have come of age which goes with greater responsibility in life.
If a boy or girl is growing and the sensitive part of his/ her body refuse to increase in growth, he or she seeks for medical solutions. It is a problem for a man or woman to grow to maturity without any feeling of sex.
Indeed having sexual urge is normal. But, sexual intercourse outside marriage is never a cure for the feelings. You will have succeeded in igniting the fire of immorality which you may find difficult to control. This has made many to jump in and out of bed with the opposite sex even against their desires.
The only cure is abstinence and self control until you are ready to go with the responsibility attached to it.
(Song of Solomon 2 : 7) has this to say:
Promise me, o woman of Jerusalem by the gazettes and wild deer, not to awaken love until the time is right
It is good to wait for the right time. It prevents ugly situations such as this.
A girl gave birth to a baby. But, It amazed me to know that the new baby was her second child with both children without any particular father. My worry was that, when she fell into the first temptation and the man denied her, she was not able to learn any lesson. Yet she fell the second time with no man claiming responsibility.
What do you think is wrong with the girl?
She simply could not stay without having a man to sleep with. This is actually happening to many in our time. Some of them flush out the pregnancy with drugs to their detriment. This has made many to become barren.
And I always weep for girls who flirt about only to accuse people of being behind their childlessness when they eventually get married.
IT HAS BEEN DISCOVERED THAT MOST PEOPLE WHO ENGAGED IN THE FIRST LOVE SAGA DO NOT ALWAYS END IT IN CONJUGAL RITES.
Teenage and adolescent romance almost always start with the people, imagining that they would end up getting married, hence they try to evolve means that will help to make the relationship a success story.
But it doesnt always work because what ever is started on a faulty foundation never stands.
The truth is that teenage age is never a time to talk about love let alone going into a serious relationship with the aim of marriage. This is because a teenager still has a long way to go in life.
There are certificates to acquire, good paying job to get, comfort to attain before getting down to a serious relationship.
Even those who get involved with their fellow students ended up with emotional break down.
Your responsibility as girl (even if you have found your first love at your teenage age) is to keep your body together, never get loose because most first love in the past actually heat the rock. Save your soul and your body.
SOME WOMEN TODAY REGRET THEIR PAST SO CALLED FIRST LOVE EXPERIENCE BECAUSE IT LEFT THEM SHATTERED AND HEART BROKEN, DO NOT WISH TO EXPERINCE SAME.
Indeed, the silent question we need to ask ourselves is what are girls or boys at the teenage age looking for in relationships?
When a teenager started love affairs at the age of 12 what will he aim to achieve? Would you court for 10 years without being tempted to have sexual intercourse? It is not an easy task. Those who tried to do so in the past failed. Today, they are regretting it.
Sincerely speaking, it is had to come out of your first love unhurt and undeflowerd. This is because people start love affairs at teenage. It will then be difficult to hold out without sex till the time of marriage. Wherever it happens, it is always by the special grace of God.
Girls are therefore implored to watch it because some men come under the camouflage of marriage when they only want to have a fling at you and go for another lady. To achieve this, they part with fat bank accounts or given precious gifts to a girl even to the extent of giving the gift of a car. Is that how much the man is in love. May you never enter into the hand of a play boy.
Indeed, you will do yourself a favour by waiting for your time rather than allowing yourself to be tempted by fashion and material things.
SICKNESS, PAIN, ABORTION OR DEATH IS EMINENT IN THE FIRST LOVE WHERE VIRGINITY IS NOT PROTECTED. PLEASE BE WARNED.
The reward people who have giving themselves into the first love with sexual commitment get are sickness, pain, abortion or death.
You can advice yourself by stating this to your self. Relationship yes sex in the relationship No. This will help to save your head from bad experiences in life. Teenagers are not advised to go into any relationship at all.
People regret their past because they see it as wasted years, or years they wish never experienced. As a result, they lack boldness to talk proudly about how much they had been sexually abused.
Listen: Anything that is shameful to talk about is not worth doing at all. Why going into what you Cannot be bold to tell your spouse when you eventually marry.
By all means, stay away from sex as a single.
Extract from my book “SEX EXPOSED”. YOU CAN ORDER FOR YOUR COPY OF THE COMPLETE BOOK. Text or WhatsApp to: 08037730716
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