HOW NOT TO LOSE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE IN MARRIAGE.
By: AKINDELE VICTOR
May you not lose the love of your life because you are impatient to nurture your raw material into your finished goods.
God does not give us an adult but a baby
God does not give us a car but a steel
God does not give us ready made food but all we could use to have good food.
Men of knowledge according to loveclinictower.com, are aware of the following that:
1) God does not give finished product.
2). God give raw materials.
3). God expects mankind to create what they want from the material He gave
This theory equally apply to marriage. So many at time, what may give you your long list of expectations in a man or woman as long as marriage is concern may come in raw materials form. Several people have lost their desires in marriage because their attention was fixed on finished product.
A man that is made.
A woman that is already an angel.
LOVE IS WHAT MATTERS MOST.
Many have lost their future joy in marriage because a man or a Lady was not a graduate. You will hear them say, ” I love that person dearly but my problem is that he/she is not a graduate. Or whatever has been the personal desire of that individual.
But see it in this way, do this not to lose your desire in marriage. If in future, you run into that girl or that man and by then he / she is already a graduate with a good job, how would you react?
As at the time you met that your love, that was the raw material stage. Why not create what you wanted out of that relationship.
1). EDUCATION : He / she is not a graduate but you are in love,
there is joy, good characters etc That is raw material stage,
never lose that partner but strife to make what you wanted
out of him/ her. Some will say pastor, are you saying I should
sponsor his/her education before marriage? My answer is No.
In a real sense, never go into a relationship whenever any of
you or both are not ready. You can train your spouse in school
not a man or woman friend. Get married and change the
person for good. Why looking for a graduate when you can
make one out of the love of your life.
2). SENSE OF DRESSING: Some may lose the love of their life
because of material things. The kind of designer wears. If
that person does not have money to wear the kind of
material you like but you can avoid them, do not lose him/
her, spend money on her or him, it will come back to you in
form of love and appreciation.
3). STATURE : Happiness and success in marriage goes
together. Truth be told, the success and happiness in your
marriage depends on whom you marry so what brings these
may be packaged in any vessel called a man or a woman. God
knows your future, all that you need to succeed in life may be
packaged in anyone regardless of complexion, size, height etc.
Many in the past have married to all these qualities in
marriage but today they have sad stories. You can have that
desired success and happiness in your marriage if you are not
carried away by physical and natural qualities. Do you see
both of you happy in life and you are convinced you are both
in love but absence of a quality discourages you from taking
marriage decision eg you love fair people but he or she is
dark, you love tall people but he or she is short, you love slim
people but he or she is fat. etc. Yet you are still convinced you
love that person, please, get married your happiness in
marriage will cover his or her natural quality you are not
seeing. Only if you can’t love him or her without those
qualities, then you can let go. But remember, God is the maker
of man including you.
4). Let me shock you with this : what will give you eternal joy,
happiness and peace in your life may be packaged in a man
or a woman from another tribe or ethnic group. You need to
look well and follow your heart to get the real thing that will
ensure your happiness in marriage and not an illusions.
According to loveclinictower.com, What you should not try to change in an individual is character, if the character is not pleasing to you, please let go of such person no matter your love for him or her because he or she may never change. But if you can accommodate his or her flaws with love please go a head and marry.