HOW TO COPE WITH DISAPPOINTMENT IN ANY RELATIONSHIP AS A SINGLE LADY.
BY: AKINDELE VICTOR
WHAT ABOUT THE QUESTION OF TESTING TO KNOW IF SUITABLE FOR MARRIAGE?
To engage in sexual intercourse before going into marriage is not an act of love but lust and infatuation. Physical appearance brings attraction but genuine love looks beyond physical appearance to identify the inward make-up of the woman/man
Love sparked off only by physical appearances and left only at that is infatuation, genuine love makes you to love whom you love no matter the size of the breast or height, colour or social status. This happens because we have lost trust for ourselves.
TESTING SUITABILITY FOR MARRIAGE BY SEXUAL EXPERIMENT IS NOT A GUARANTEE THAT THE COURTSHIP WILL METAMORPHOSE INTO MARRIAGE
Women are more heartbroken in disengagement after an experimental sexual intercourse because they feel used and dumped. You find it easier to cope with any disappointment in relationship when your pride is still intact.
You go through that trauma and emotional breakdown because of the sexual experience you had together. When you avoid testing, you will be glad you protected your pride and your spouse will trust you even more.
It has been discovered that sexual gratification hinders partners from disengaging from a relationship. People want to have their sex partners close by for sexual satisfaction, until they have seen an alternative.
But if alternative are not forth coming, then they go ahead and marry the fellow only to regret thereafter. Yet, it is better to leave yourself clean before marriage (Heb. 13:4). This is to avoid regrets that will follow because the devil will come to claim his pride of place. Remember sex is only in marriage not in courtship.
NO MATTER HOW ADVANCED YOU ARE, AGE WISE, IF YOU ARE STILL A VIRGIN, YOUR SPOUSE WILL HONOUR, TRUST AND RESPECT YOU FOR LIFE.
Virginity is not a curse nor a sign of awkwardness but a sense of morality and the fear of God. It breeds genuine love and trust in marriage which is the hallmark of any successful marriage. You need trust to keep your marriage going not love alone.
Remember, trust in any marriage enhances the shower of affection or love but only love without trust can wreck a home watch out.
MEN ABUSE OLDER LADIES AS PLAY BOYS BUT GO LOW TO YOUNGER GIRLS FOR MARRIAGE WHAT AN EVIL
The society deceives young ladies with gists that virginity has no value anymore in marriage hence at a tender age, they get loose. Consequently, only few get married before they advance in age and the left over are usually dumped for younger ladies who are still considered to be clean babes.
May that never be the portion of the reader of this book. Just keep your self, do not get lost. The world still values you.
THE PERMISSION OF SEXUAL INTERCOURSE IN COURTSHIP IS NEVER A PROVE OF GENUINE LOVE BUT A SIGN OF STUPIDITY.
If sexual intercourse is actually a sign of showing how much I love you, then I shouldnt have jilted or disappointed you at all. It should have been used to cement the relationship for marriage.
But, alas, it does not work that way. So take caution. Keep your pride till marriage regardless of how the love is intoxicating you now.
LOVE AND SEX DURING COURTSHIP MAY NOT BE AN EVIDENCE OF TRUE LOVE
Youths have this evil tradition of keeping more than one partner which they may likely be having sex with independently while professing love to each of them respectively. It is not a sign of true love but evidence of wrong sexual drive.
If the person now decides to go for one of the sex partners, what happens to the other partners? What becomes of his / her emotional feelings.
If you happens to be unlucky partner as man/woman what would you do after you have giving your virginity, your strength, your efforts to the partner only to be jilted?
Open your eyes and follow Goodly principles. (1cor.6:18).
WOMEN ALWAYS FEEL SAD AND DISAPPOINTED WHEN EVER A COURTSHIP WHICH THEY HAVE GIVEN THEIR BEST SUDDENLY BREAKS UP. THEIR GREATEST REGRET IS THAT THEY GAVE THEIR HEARTH AND BODY TO THE MAN.
The effect of a broken courtship will be moderate and short lived when the woman/man has not indulged in sexual intercourse before the separation.
Give your heart, save your body for marriage. If the heart is broken someone else can mend it for you but your body can no man bring back, if it is broken.
A contact with a man sexually changes your body science as a woman, no man can reverse it. Get wise.
DO NOT TRUST YOURSELF, DISAPPOINTMENT MAY COME FROM ANYBODY
Disappointment or disengagement of courtship does not only come because of lack of love or loss of interest in a partner. There are other factors such as infidelity, lack of trust, family pressure, religious differences, tribal differences, incompatibility of interest, character, etc.
All these do not manifest in a day but in bits. Therefore, the decision to quit the relationship may come from you, beyond your own control. What then would you do after you have been messed up? May you never live to regret your life.
These days, men hardly find any reason to be in a hurry to settle down with the lady they love since they are already live-in-lover.
If you want a man to marry you on time, if he truly loves you, then show him that you have the mandate to keep your virginity until you are legally married. This stand will help you not to compromise Gods word on marriage (Heb. 13:4).
Take note that anything you compromise Gods word to keep will eventually make you cry. That is true.
DO NOT STOP THE MESSAGE. SHARE IT NOW FOR YOUR FRIENDS TO BENEFIT FROM IT.
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