This is an aspect of marriage that need serious attention, most especially in this our world.
New family relationship is an aspect of marriage that we are yet to understand how God ordained it, that is fast wrecking homes today. Marriage that both the family members of the groom and bride joyfully witnessed the holy matrimony and joining of the two will suddenly be put asunder by the same family members. This is because we failed to recognize the principle of a man and his wife.
God designed of marriage is just between the two who He expects to become one. But what we see in marriage is the contrary mostly in Africa with too much attachment and value to extended family ties.
This is not bad on its own but where it is misused, it may begin to have influence on a newly married couple.
It is in our world we see a man married but still ruled and controlled by the mother either from distance or that the woman is actually residing with the man and his wife. It is in our world a woman is now a man’s wife but the mother still holds greater part of her decisions and direction in her matrimonial home.
The mother is better informed and alerted by what goes on in her husband’s house than the man, the husband, even though is her babe or honey, yet the woman’s mother or father would have deliberated on an issue or probably resolved it long before the man is aware. This shows that in reality the husband is far from her heart while the parents are still holding greater part. Such a home can never know peace.
The worst of all is sister in-laws or brother in-laws in the name of family bond or family covenants. This group of people will say a thing in another person’s home, it will hold. The man or the wife in any case will dance to the tunes of the brothers or sisters than whatever is happening between them as husband and wife. What a terrible world.
Couples need to know that marriage will work out better if the two can remain as one as God ordained it to be..
FOR THIS REASON SHALL A MAN LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE….NOT WITH FATHER, MOTHER, SISITERS, UNCLES, AUNTIES, BROTHERS…..As a mother, Father, Sister or brother please can you allow this new family relationship to be established in love and understanding with no more interferences.
This is marriage mentoring; I am much concern about happiness in your marriage.