Seven common mistakes singles make before marriage
Seven common Mistakes Singles Make before marriage.
By: Akindele Victor
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MISTAKE NO. ONE
Getting physically involve in a relationship much too soon and
going too far before deeply considering what the relationship
marriage will look like. Every single should avoid this mistake
try to define the relationship right from the on set.
MISTAKE NO. TWO
IGNORING DANGER SIGNALS IN A RELATIONSHIP
Ignoring danger signals in a relationship is very dangerous.
A whole lot of people suffering in marriages today saw the dangers of what they are facing now coming but they consciously ignored it. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage, please be wise. So, to you who is still single, open your eyes, you still have time to correct your self before it is too late
Hope my advice make sense to you singles ?
MISTAKE NO. THREE
MISINTERPRETING THE ATTENTION OF THE OPPOSITE SEX AS MARRIAGE PROPOSAL
Some people can be so naive that they take attention of an opposite sex to be a serious courtship even when there is no verbal confirmation from the person. This mistake is applicable more to ladies, a guy is just closed, very caring, helpful etc then in the mind of a lady we are courting when the man have never expressed that. To some guys too, they are actually interested in the lady but will never affirm that. They consider the closeness and the attention giving to the lady to be enough for the lady to know his intention. When another guy now showed up who expressly and properly proposed, the lady will go for her, then the guy will complain of dumbing him or vise ver sa.
So never misinterpret attention for proposal, if you are interested as a guy talk. As a lady if he has not proposed you are not engaged go for who ever is serious with you period
Hope I’m speaking your mind as a single?
MISTAKE NO. FOUR
BELIEVING THAT MARRIAGE WILL SOLVE ALL THEIR PROBLEMS
This is a serious mistake for a lady or a man. Singles feel that the moment they marry most of their problems will be solved or completely gone, most especially financial problem.
Some ladies look up to a man to solve all their problems, from her own to the family, but suddenly discover that long after the marriage the problems are still there and even compounded, so they feel frustrated and disappointed. Singles need to understand that marriage is not a platform to solve all your problems, in fact in marriage other problems are going to surface, so if you think going into that marriage is to solve all your problems and not what you can help solved with your partner, you are making a mistake, so think twice.
Hope this make sense to you?
MISTAKE NO. FIVE
FAILURE TO RECOGNISE THAT MARRIAGE IS ULTIMATELY ABOUT DESTINY.
Marriage can make you or break you, marriage can help you make heaven or send you to hell. The decision you make about marriage can determine where you will end in life whether as a successful person or a failure. Failure to recognise that marriage goes beyond the feeling good and lots of pleasures and fantasies to ultimately determine ones destiny is a mistake commonly make by the youths. Singles most times fall in love with material things and easily carried away by emotion before they will start facing the reality of life. Many never thought of where the relationship leads but they just think of what is happening in their body at present.
Singles need to know that marriage is a life time contract that determines where and how you will end it in life, so enter into it with understanding, open eyes, open mind, good motives, positive intentions and with good purpose in life.
May your relationship lead you to greatness in life in Jesus name.
MISTAKE NO. SIX
FAILURE TO DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE BEFORE LOOKING FOR A PARTNER.
This is a serious threat to the youths, so many ask me how do I know whom to marry? How do I know my partner? How do I know he/she is my wife or husband? These has been common questions from singles/youths. I hope this my little piece will answer many of these questions today.
Purpose simply means what you were created to be or to achieve in life. It could be your goal or plans of what you wish or desire to be in life. In another way, purpose could be what you like doing best or find easier doing in life. What you enjoy doing.
This will determine your vision, career, dreams, profession etc.
When you fail to discover this, you will find it difficult to know who should fit in into your life and future completely. Remember marriage is a life time contract.
Many youths don’t know their bearing all they remember is all about marriage, this is why many have gone far in a relationship before they realised the girl or the man never fit in into their life or future. When your life is just any how, no bearing, no direction then anybody can be your partner. But when you realised whom you are early in life before thinking of relationship, it will guide you to accept or reject any form of proposal. For example if you know early that you will be a pastor or an evangelist or a singer or a nurse, this will help you to determine whom you care for and whom you accept because it is not everybody that can fit it into that vision.
Hope I’m practical enough?
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MISTAKE NO. SEVEN
FAILURE TO UNDERSTAND THAT MARRIAGE IS NOT A SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEM OF PROMISCUITY
Many youths are feeling that if they can settle down in marriage, it will end their life style of Indiscriminate choice of sexual partners. You hear them say or people say to them “go and settle down so you will stop putting eyes here and there on ladies or men”. This is common with men than women.
In as much as it is true to some extent that marriage may help restrict your going out with other sexual partners but it is never a cure to a promiscuous life. Not to live a promiscuous life after marriage is only by decision and determination not by marriage.
Many soon discovered that the sex they crave for is not actually as fantastic as they thought it will be with their partner, this is why those who could not exercise self control will be on the look out for a prey outside their marriage which they thought would have ended the adventures.
Secondly, some youths are already living together even before they marry, years before their marriage, so they soon get familiar with their partner and then loses interest so fast that they may not feel satisfied any more thereby trying to look for a new catch.
So never live in that delusion that you just need a man or you need a woman so you can end your life and interest of sexual fantasy, it is a big mistake. That you are married is not your end to meeting men or ladies with higher qualities and beauty than your partner, please take note.
So to enter into marriage with that expectation of ending a promiscuous life is a mistake, you need a life of contentment and determination to make your marriage work.
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