Adam had all he needed in terms of food to eat and work to do. Yet one thing was still lacking – companionship (Gen.2:18a). “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone….” He was alone. God wanted something better for him.
Yes, God was a good friend of Adam, but he was God, Adam’s Creator. There were also all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air which the Lord allowed Adam to name, but none of them was a. suitable helper for Adam (Gen.2:19-20). The word ‘helper’ does not mean that the woman was to be the man’s servant, parent keeper. Rather, she was to complement him, working alongside him. So God did as he had planned (2:18b) and made a suitable Companion for Adam and brought her to the man in what appears to be a wedding ceremony.
The process included putting Adam into a deep sleep and using one of his ribs to make a woman (2:21-22). “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.” Note that the woman was not born of the man. She was not the man’s child, which would have given him moral authority over her. Rather, God formed her from the man’s rib, close to his heart, to establish the intimate link between them in their very- creation.
The woman will consider the man as part of her very being and the man will see the woman as the help he needs, without whom he is incomplete. In this way, the man will help his wife to live up to her potential with thankfulness for God’s gift of companionship. Because of the .unity that God had ordained, he did not repeat to the woman the command he had already given to the man. The man was responsible for communicating it to her.
This ideal union ordained by the Creator cannot exist in a polygamous relationship between a man and several women (polygamy) or between a woman and several men (polyandry). Nor can there be perfect complementarily in a homosexual relationship between two men or between two women. God condemns all sexual relationships that involve anything other than one man and one woman (Rom 1:27; “And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet”. 1 Tim 1:8-10).
“But we know that the law is good, if a man use it lawfully; Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers.”
Amazed at God’s act, all Adam could do was exclaim, this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh (2:23a). He recognized the intimate relationship between himself and the woman. But he did not see her as simply another being exactly like himself, but as someone distinct. Thus he said, she shall be called ‘woman’. As someone taken out of man she is an extension of man but has a different role (2:23b).
On the basis of what the man says here; the writer of Genesis comments: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife (2:24). the type of intimacy that God has set up here is so close that it cannot be in competition with the second closest human relationship, that between parent and child.
A marriage thus involves leaving one’s parents to be united with one’s spouse.