IF YOU HATE DISAPPOINTMENT WAIT FOR MY TIME IN MARRIAGE
Disappointment is of two categories. First is disappointment without sexual involvement. Second is disappointment with sexual involvement. It is easier for a young man or girl to overcome the brunt of disappointment without sexual intercourse because you have not created a bond that will bind the two of you together spiritually and emotionally.
In the second category, a deep sexual involvement is always very difficult to let go. It breaks the genuine partner down and sometimes may result in mental disorder.
In any case, whether you give in to sex or not, disappointment may come, so look up to God, be genuine in your relationship and remain chaste, keep your self especially girls. The anxiety of the unknown in sex before marriage is always higher, so be cautions.
WHENEVER YOU HAVE SEX YOU ARE ACTUALLY PRAYING TO GOD TO MAKE YOU PREGNANT OR TO MAKE YOUR GIRL PREGNANT. WHY DO YOU GET DISTURBED WHEN GOD ANSWERS YOUR PRAYER?
When you noticed you are pregnant before marriage you are supposed to thank God for answering your prayer, while the man should be happy that God has actually answered his prayer too.
But, why are there crying, wailing and having the feeling of trouble and disappointment whenever instead it is a clear sign that pre-marital sex is not permitted at that stage. Those involved are robbers. When you go for abortion, the God that answered the prayer judges you because he gave what you asked for and you never allowed it to stay.
Well even if you want it to stay you will soon find out that you are doing the right thing at the wrong time as you begin to face the responsibility you were not prepared for. Be wise
REMEMBER; PREGNANCY OUTSIDE MARRIAGE CAN NEVER BE CELEBRATED.
Whenever a married woman is pregnant, people praise God. When a married woman stay for years without the fruit of the womb, people organize prayers on her behalf.
But a single young girl’ s pregnancy is always a reproach to her and to the family.
Most girls are put in a family way at their teenage age, mostly during their first love and they are left to suffer the pains alone. Since it takes two to enjoy sex. It should equally take the two to carry the responsibility that follows. But when you are pregnant outside wedlock, the girl will carry the burden alone. Just pray that you are not even denied by the man who impregnated you.
Girls, learn from this do not hinder your own progress.
TO BE A VIRGIN IS NEVER A CURSE BUT A BLESSING TO YOU AND YOUR GENERATION AFTER YOU – WHAT YOU GIVE TO YOUR CHILDREN IS WHAT THEY WILL TAKE AFTER.
You can easily loss your virginity during your first love, it takes knowledge and extra caution to stand your ground.
Some girls give out their pride (Virginity) willingly as a result of reproach from their close friends who have lost theirs and now feel uncomfortable moving with someone who is still a virgin.
As a result they call them Jew girls or boys. But the truth is that virginity is never a curse on you, it will never impose any medical threat on you before and after your marriage. All those statements are from the enemy of godliness, people should not pay attention to them.
In the past, a friend of mine told me her sad story. Her boy friend collided with a nurse to deceive her that keeping a virginity at a matured age is very dangerous to her health and the boy ask her to go to that very nurse. Of course it was their conspiracy, so the nurse told her exactly the mind of the boy and this lady submitted her self to the boy, after deflowering her, the boy left. She told me the story out of a sad and broken mind. She did it out of ignorance.
Don’t be a victim, learn from the story. What testimony would you hold for your children?
SEXUAL INTERCOURSE BEFORE MARRIAGE IS NOT A GUARANTEE THAT THE MARRIAGE MUST HOLD.
When you say I need to satisfy him sexually so that another lady will not take him away from me; do you see sex before marriage as a guarantee to marriage?
We have heard a situation where two girls got pregnant for a man at the same time. You may say I know my guy he will not do that. But what if it happens, will you kill him?
That you left your own room or your family and parked to his house, cooked his food, watch his cloth and also gave him your body is never a guarantee that you are the madam of that house. Another girl can still take over.
My dear, please place respect and honor on your self. Let him struggle to get you so that he can value you. Do not cheapen yourself at the first contact because he said “I love you” No! your head should not swell over flashy statement that may be aimed at having a fling at you. Refuse to be cheap. You can be used and dumped, be cautious and wise.
SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS AN ACT OF LUST NOT REAL LOVE BE WARNED.
Sexual intercourse before marriage is seen as an act of love. And I ask how can you dump the one you claim to love for another girl or man. When you love, you are supposed to love completely, love with an alternative partner is never a pure love but deception and lust.
These common statement “if you love me, you make love to me” and if you love me, you will allow me to have sex with you” are burn out of deception. It is done in exchange of something, it is either the man ‘is so good’ to you or the girl is ‘ so beautiful’ to let go without sex. The fact that the reason for sex is conditional and not pure love, makes it lust.
Some men get into relationships with girls because of the physique of the girl, but when the beauty fades, the story changes. True love is not based on physical appearance alone but personality also.
Having gone through all these nuggets, I will love you to go through the research listed below for your evaluation. It is my hope that this eyes opening questions would help you not to fall into the same mistakes others made before you, as you ponder on them I prophesy you shall not weep for others have wept for you, this is only if you are wise to take the advice of the elders.
Now the question:
Tips on How to Safeguard Your Virginity as Singles during Your First Love _ Third Post
what are you preparing for: wedding or marriage. See the answer here.
Beware of first crisis in marriage_ the challenge of background
How to avoid the marriage killer sense_ the tribal sense
Tips on How to Safeguard Your Virginity as Singles during Your First Love _ First Post