Two major reasons why a marriage could still fail after 20 years of living together.
TWO MAJOR REASONS WHY A MARRIAGE COULD STILL FAIL AFTER 20 YEARS OF LIVING TOGETHER ??
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Can a marriage still fail after couples have stayed together for years?
You may wonder why I am so much interested in a marriage that have past silver jubilee while in real sense, people divorce after 2 or 5 years in marriage. It is even possible that a marriage consummated with lots of celebration and jubilation will just crash in less than a year, what a world we are in. This can never be an experience of anyone in this platform in Jesus name.
I am particular about this level of marriage because, we least expected that couples who has endured or enjoyed many things together,, with ups and downs waged through many storms will still come to believe that the only option for a partner or both to have lasting peace and happiness in life is to separate or divorce. So painful, after all these years? But why?
It is unbelievable to witness a marriage that is over 20 years come to an end suddenly after many children and good times spent together. I actually heard of a couple that had married, lived together for 30 years but ended in divorce. Though surprising anyway, but it is not something hidden anymore as our society has witnessed this sorry scenario and we are still counting. WHAT A LIVE !
After 20 years when we would have concluded that the couple have studied and adjusted enough to tolerate each other. They are near to their resting moment, getting ready for their honey moon phase two, when their children must have left to pursue their own career and family.
The question is can a marriage still fail after couples have stayed together for years? I know your answer is IT IS POSSIBLE.
If this can be, how can you safe your own marriage? That is what I am after, to safe your home, even after 60 years together, you will still adore one another.
I will show you just two major causes of marital failures after 20 years of togetherness.
Many suggestions may be going on in the mind of many, attributing the causes of this marital failure to be:
# Money/Poverty
# Childlessness
# Accident
# Adultery.
# Religion etc
If I should tell you non of the above, how would you feel.
Some will say if not these, then what could it be?
Don’t worry, just follow me till the end, I will tell you what the holy ghost told me is the cause which every couple should avoid doing.
The fact that one is in a marriage 2, 3,5,…10…15 etc means it is not a success yet until you end it together well. THE END OF A THING IS BETTER THAN THE BEGINNING. SURE!
You will end your marriage well in Jesus name. Amen.
Two major cause of divorce or separation after over twenty years in marriage.
1. Unpleasant/Unrepentant attitudes of a partner: I will use the theory of a goat that can turn to bite or kick when you pressed it to the wall syndrome to explain this scenario. An unrepentant attitudes of a partner could lead to a divorce after many years in marriage. What can we consider as an unpleasant and unrepentant attitudes in a marriage? This differ from home to home, though I will try to give some examples. But in general, this means that attitude(s) a partner has been complaining about overtime that breaks him or her down. If the partner refused to change, they may endure this for as long as the other partner will declare he or she cannot continue again. Those things that breaks your spouse down, if not corrected now is a time bomb that will break the marriage at any time. Check out the people who has experienced this, they will tell you they have been complaining about that very situation that separated them but there was no changes, and they have come to realise that there is no more hope. Some will say after years in marriage? Is it now you wake up? No, it is just that it is that time he or she has the courage to bolt out, it has been there all this while.
To all couples, never take for granted any attitude your spouse is complaining to be unpleasant to him or her, if not it may ground your marriage.
SOME OF THE UNPLEASANT ATTITUDES MAY INCLUDE THE FOLLOWING;
# Wife/Husband battering
# Drunkenness
# Drugs
# Disrespect
# Promiscuous life/Cheating
# Bad example to the children
# Thuggery
# Occultism
# Continuous extended family intrusion
# Anything unpleasant to your spouse.
2. Selfishness of a partner
The second cause of divorce after many years in marriage is when a partner is selfish.
The worst marriage anyone could find him or her self is to be with a man or a women who only cares about his/her feelings and satisfaction without considering how the spouse will feel. In as much as he or she is happy, that is it. Such person can go as far as doing the unexpected in as much as that will make him feel good. Such people are ruled by emotions and not by principles of life or marriage.
THERE CHARACTERISTICS INCLUDES:
1. They don’t care what people will say.
2. They don’t think about the consequences of their actions.
3. Some that thinks about the consequences don’t bother about
it.
4. They don’t always believe or remember that there is a time
called THE END
5. For such people, in as much as you make them happy, you are
the best partner, but if you default, they are moving on.
6. They have less value for marriage or lacks understanding
about marriage.
You will not be such partner in Jesus name.
Your partner will not be such person in Jesus name.
In marriage, these are the set of people that could cause a divorce or separation after years in marriage.
1. They can divorce to marry another man or wife
2. They keep secrets in marriage
3. They involve in secret extra marital affairs.
4. They chase after wealth or popularity etc
5. Any action that is self gratified without thinking about what others will feel.
These are signs that a marriage can crash at anytime unless the partner take precautions and depend on God for their success for the sake of God and their children.
You will not disappoint God and your generation in Jesus name.
YOUR MARRIAGE WILL NOT EXPERIENCE A TRAGIC END IN JESUS NAME.
YOUR CHILDREN WILL NOT SUFFER THE SIN OF AN
INCONSISTENT PARENTS IN JESUS NAME.
YOU WILL END WELL.
YOUR END SHALL BE BETTER IN THE NAME OF JESUS. AMEN.
THANK YOU.
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